Gender roles is like a wasp nest. You should avoid messing with it if you don’t want to be stung. Nevertheless I’m going to write about. Im not writing about which opinion’s right or wrong. I’m simply writing my opinion.

I’m fortunate enough to have been born and raised in a country where I’m allowed to have my own opinion, and to express it. Even though you have to be prepared to take a blow or two nowadays if your opinion part from what’s regarded as politically correct you still have the right to have your own opinion.

I believe that there are differences between the sexes. There are obvious differences physiologically, why wouldn’t it be psychological differences and behavioral differences?

There are numerous research studies that clearly demonstrate these differences. One by Professor Simon Baron-Cohen performed on newborn babies. In the study newborn babies where presented with a face and a mobile separately. They found that girls spent significantly more time looking at the face than the mobile, while it was the opposite amongst boys. You can read more about the study here; https://www.math.kth.se/matstat/gru/5b1501/F/sex.pdf

What I can’t understand is why someone would say that there’s no difference between sexes. Isn’t that the equivalent of saying one is better than the other, and therefore everyone have to be the same?

To me equality isn’t about everyone being identical. It’s about having the same rights and worth regardless of the differences. Is humans are just as depended on a pack as dogs are. We depend on a social context to strive and survive, a group is in turn dependent on the differences of its members. We are not all meant to be the same. We are meant to complement each other. Not everyone can be born perfect with all the conditions and abilities required for survival and development. It is not likely that a small error could never occur in any of the developmental stages during fetal life. It is absolutely necessary for the survival of humanity that we are born with differences, different abilities and different focuses. We’re all needed. We’re all important. We don’t have to be identical.

I was born in the 70s, to parents born in 1935 and 1940. My mother was a housewife until I was around ten, and then took a job outside the home. I’d say my parents have had a relationship based on equality. My father was always the one who earned the most, due to his education and the sort of jobs he had, but that never meant he had more money than my mother. The money that came in, they both used. They were a family, and families work together.

Bigger purchases or decisions they always discussed with each other, but for most part they trusted each others ability to make decisions. They were both free individuals, with their own interests, that fought together to build the best possible life for themselves and their child.

Did this mean they split every chore in half? No, definitely not. My father cooked sometimes, if my mother were not home or for some other reason couldn’t do it, but for the most part my mother was the one cooking the meals. She was also the one that for the most parts did the cleaning and the washing. My father, on the other hand, did everything outside the house. Everything from working the land, cutting wood, fixing anything that was broken to maintaining the cars in drivable condition. Not once did I hear anyone of them complain about things not being equal.

My father don’t know how to operate the sawing machine just as my mother doesn’t know how to operate the woodcutting machine. That doesn’t mean they couldn’t learn if they had to but until then there’s simply no need for it. They compliment each other. They work as one.

For me it’s been natural to continue the way of life I grew up with. I’ve always been in charge of the matters of the household. I’ve cocked, cleaned, decorated, organized everyday life. I’ve also always expected the man of the house to take responsibility for all the stuff outside of the house, just as my father did. I expect him to be able to chop the wood, to fix things, to make sure the cars are running and that the machines are working. I expect him to fix broken handles or light switches, to shovel snow and to maintain the outside of the house. I’ll plant flowers and vegetables in the garden but I expect my man to tend to the hedges.

Can I chop wood? Of course I can. But I preferred him to do it. He love axes, I don’t. He’s also much stronger then I am.

Can he cook? Of course he can. But I like cocking, he don’t. Why should he be forced to do it?

To be honest I could never find a man that couldn’t, or wouldn’t, handle an axe or a hammer attractive. I could never truly love a man that I didn’t feel were able to protect me and our family if needed. I don’t want a partner that’s just like me but with male body parts. I want someone that can can do the things I’m not an expert in, someone that has abilities and interests that complement my abilities and interests. I want a man that is the other half, my other half. Together we’ll make the whole. This is my preference, my opinion. No more right or wrong than anyone elses.

I’m sure there are couples who complete each other in other ways. I’m sure there are couples where the female is the one best equipped to hold the axe and the man best equipped to do the cooking. I’m sure there are couples that are happy with doing 50/50 of everything. Whatever works is good, I think. In no way am I saying that’s wrong. I’m simply writing what’s true for me.

I am, however, worried about how eagerly some are in trying to erase everything that has so to do with differences between the sexes. To me it’s obvious there are differences, and I don’t think suppressing that will lead to anything good. I think that will lead to more and more confusion amongst humans, and that no one in the end are doing what comes natural and we thus end up with a bunch of people doing everything half good. That’ll lead nowhere but to the dark ages.

Finally I want to make it perfectly clear that I’m talking about my life as a heterosexual female. In no way do I have any negative thoughts about homosexuality. Homosexuality has been a part of humanity for as long humanity has existed, I believe. There’s lot of science to back that up. I also believe there are men with more traditional female traits and women with more traditional male traits.

Maby you could say there’s a scale with female traits in one corner and male in the other, and that both men and women are somewhere on that scale. Most women are closer to the female corner and most men to the male corner, but of course there will always be those who are not like the majority. Which is good, as I think diversity is key to the survival of any rase.

I’d think a man with traditional female traits would have a happier life with a man or woman with more male traits, and vice versa. What I’m saying is that I believe that in order for humans and families to prosper I think different traits have to compliment each other. And I think that it’s devastating to force people to become the same. We just aren’t. And I for one think that is a good thing. We are meant to be different.

A good night to you all.

Hell. ❤️